Premarital counselling or pre-marriage counselling is a positive and useful option for many couples.
There is a lot of stress before a wedding in terms of stress related to the event, thinking about your marriage and what it will be like, and moving into the next phase of the relationship. This can be daunting and some couples feel that certain issues need to be worked on before the wedding can happen.
Premarital counselling can be a good step as our counsellors can help shape discussions about ‘where to’? after the wedding. They can also help with focusing goals based on your agreed values.
Often people come to premarital counselling because:
- There is an issue that needs to be worked through before the wedding
- There is built up stress related to the wedding day
- There are cultural or family issues around the upcoming marriage
- The couple wanted to talk through steps forward after the wedding to help keep them on track
These above issues maybe relevant to you and your partner. Or you may have a unique experience that you would like to talk through.
What is exactly premarital counselling?
Premarital counselling is a step towards being more open in the relationship and really naming how you feel.
There can also be an issue of one or both people ‘getting cold feet’. This creates a big stress between the two people as to whether they want go ahead with the wedding. ‘Cold feet’ in essence is a lack of communication about issues. Is something not being said? Or has something changed that hasn’t been talked through? Both parties need to feel like they are able to share what is going on for them and talk this through properly.
And what about a life game plan?
Do both partners want children?
What about where you want to live?
Or your career goals?
Sometimes these questions are swept under the carpet and not talked about which is really unfair.
We can help
Premarital counselling is about creating a safe place to talk, opening up discussions and also doing some planning for the future.
Take the time for your relationship and reach out for support before your wedding day.
If you want to read further about relationship counselling, feel free to check the articles in our blog.
