Family Counselling in Melbourne

Having a parent leave the family home, or the parent relationship break down, can be incredibly difficult for everyone involved. Maybe your kids heard you both fighting or noticed that there was tension every time you both were together. In a young person’s mind they may think this is their fault. They may think they have done something wrong, or somehow they could have changed things. Kids are switched on and even if you haven’t ‘fought in front of them’ kids do pick up on these things. 

How the breakdown in relationship takes place can also be a struggle for everyone. For example, if finances prevent one person leaving, or if there are control issues around access of the kids. Tensions around these issues can destroy civil discussion. Not talking about this stuff is not the answer. Because we don’t want any family member sitting in this horrible experience alone. So divorce counselling is not so much about the parents, it’s more about the other family members who are effected. 

You can choose to not be in a relationship but you still need to be civil and engaged around parenting your children positively together. When separating is hard, sometimes the kids’ needs are left out, and you forget what is important. Safe Place Therapy is here to help everyone talk better. We help all members of the family focus on respect and open communication.

This might be a new born baby, adoption, or another change in the family unit which impacts everyone’s relationship with each other. Clearly with a new born or new addition older children may feel left out, miss out on quality time and then start to resent the younger sibling. This may change the older child’s behaviours causing disruption for more parent attention. This dynamic shift can be alarming for children especially if they have been an only child for a long period.

Families really know how to fight and this can lead to break down in communication and people not talking to each other over something that has happened. Usually the fight happens at a big event and then it feels like there is no turning back from the toxic words exchanged. Sides are taken if who is ‘right’ and who is ‘wrong’ and this further causes difficulties in re engage any positive talking. Its is clear here that this in fighting helps no one and everyone misses out especially people who wernt involved in the fight in the first place. Family counselling can help calm the waters and slow down what happened so it is less of a blame game and more of an ‘olive branch’ to re connect everyone. Fights can last years but it can take a moment of courage to reach out for help to reconnect.

Being different can be an amazing experience for two partners but this can also negatively affect relationships within a family if someone does not agree. culture and difference can be celebrated but it does mean that effective communication is needed to understand what is needed in the relationship for the different to exist without clashing.

Supporting other family members who are unwell can be a huge toll on the person unwell and everyone else involved. A Caring role also changes communication, how the unwell person is perceived and dynamic changes. Moving from a once healthy person to a sick person can be a real shock and there is constant concerns of ‘not wanting to worry other people’ and struggling at this alone. A sudden death in the family or death of a significant figure is also understandably crushing.

Abuse towards anyone can have lasting on the family system and ability to cope. We can never underestimate the toll this plays on young people especially who struggle to understand why and internalize alot of their anger and sadness as they feel they cant speak up.