Narcissistic parents are individuals who have a narcissistic personality disorder and use their children to meet their own emotional needs. They often prioritise their own desires and needs over those of their children, and may manipulate, control, or exploit their children in order to feel important and superior.
One of the key characteristics of narcissistic parents is their lack of empathy. They may be unable to recognise or validate the emotions of their children, instead seeing them as extensions of themselves. This can make it difficult for children to form a healthy emotional attachment to their parent, leading to feelings of loneliness and emotional detachment.
Narcissistic parents may also engage in favouritism, pitting their children against one another in order to feel superior. They may also use their children as a means of achieving their own goals or ambitions, without considering the impact on the child.
One of the most damaging aspects of narcissistic parenting is the emotional abuse that often occurs. Narcissistic parents may belittle, criticise, or shame their children in order to maintain control and boost their own ego. This can have long-term effects on the child’s self-esteem and emotional well-being.
It’s important to recognise that not all narcissistic individuals are abusive, and not all abusive individuals are narcissistic. However, narcissistic individuals are more likely to engage in abusive behaviour due to their lack of empathy and their need for control.
Strategies for dealing with narcissistic parents
So, what can you do if you have a narcissistic parent? Here are a few strategies that may be helpful:
- Set boundaries: It’s important to establish clear boundaries with a narcissistic parent in order to protect yourself from emotional abuse. This may involve setting limits on communication or interaction, or setting boundaries around what you are willing to do or accept.
- Seek support. It can be helpful to talk to a therapist. Or join a support group in order to process your feelings and experiences with a narcissistic parent. It’s important to have a safe space where you can talk openly about your feelings and find support and understanding.
- Practice self-care: Taking care of yourself is crucial when dealing with a narcissistic parent. This may involve setting aside time for hobbies or activities that bring you joy, making sure you get enough rest and exercise, and finding ways to manage stress.
- Consider your relationship with your parent. It’s important to decide what type of relationship, if any, you want to have with a narcissistic parent. This may involve setting boundaries around communication or limiting contact to protect your own emotional well-being.
- Don’t blame yourself: It’s common for individuals with narcissistic parents to blame themselves for their parent’s behaviour. It’s important to remember that their behaviour is their responsibility, not yours.
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It can be difficult to navigate a relationship with a narcissistic parent, but it is possible to find ways to protect yourself and take care of your own emotional well-being. By setting boundaries, seeking support, and practicing self-care, you can find ways to cope with the challenges of having a narcissistic parent.
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